Continuing on the theme of the Love Language: Words of Affirmation, why not try this at home from this Valentine’s Day…
These are Love Books! They are just four little note books which we covered with funky paper and hearts – each one of us has our own book.
Every time we want to appreciate something the other person has done, we write it in the book! As we do tend to forget to do this over time, we now make it a point to do it at least once weekly – we start our weekly family meeting by telling each other what we appreciated and write it down.
Nowadays we don’t even need the books to remind us to do this…even if we’re out and about and have some time with the four of us together, we will do our round of appreciations – and I can tell it really means a lot to the kids! They start getting offended if we seem to be taking too long to think of one 🙂
We started it around last Valentine’s day and Alhamd it is still going strong. I hope this book – and the tons of Words of Affirmation that are in them – will be something they will treasure when they’re older.
Am also thinking of making another little notebook but purely for Allah and things we are grateful for that He has blessed us with. This will help us all to consciously think of the different things He has given to us over the week, and be grateful for them!
This fifth love language is not only about the words you use in your relationships with other halves/children, but also how you say it.
Everyone knows the boost a kind word or compliment can give, so why not increase the ones we dish out to the people around us?
Allah even talks about the long lasting fruitful effects of these words: “Have you not considered how Allah sets forth a parable of a good word (being) like a good tree, whose root is firm and whose branches are in heaven.”
In Kerbala, the most poignant of examples of using words of affirmation is when Jon bin Huway – a freed black slave whose love for Imam Husayn (as) knew no bounds – was fatally wounded. Imam took him in his lap, affirmed him and prayed for him, and a sweet fragrance began to emit from the blood-soaked body straight away as the Imam’s supplication was granted.