Here are some rhymes to sing when teaching children about prayer:
- To the tune of this is the way we brush our teeth:This is the way we (make salah) x3
This is the way we make salah
When it’s time to prayThis is the way we (do takbir) x3
This is the way we do takbir
Allahu AkbarThis is the way we (stand up tall) x3
This is the way we stand up tall
And say al-Fatiha
This is the way we (do ruku) x3
This is the way we do ruku
And say subhanAllah
This is the way we (do sujood) x3
This is the way we do sujood
And say subhanAllah
This is the way we (sit up straight) x3
This is the way we sit up straight
La illaha illallah
- To the tune of heads, shoulders, knees and toes:Head, hands, knees and toes, knees and toes
Head, hands, knees and toes, knees and toes
They touch the ground when we make sujood
Head, hands, knees and toes, knees and toes
- To the tune of row row row your boat:Wash wash do wudu for my Salah
Fajr, Dhuhr, Asr, Maghrib and Isha
Inspire them by showing them that Salaah can be prayed anywhere!
A popular photo project celebrates the unexpected places Muslims pray: the basketball court, an airport baggage claim, the beach, and Machu Picchu.
Posted by Quartz on Sunday, 30 April 2017
This is a wonderful nasheed to listen to with children 🙂
Some beautiful tips amongst these articles and videos:
Some good tips! When he started talking about how parents should get together and exchange ideas, i was so excited – because that’s what Buzz is all about! Parents sharing ideas about what works for them!
And check out this beautiful post from Facebook:
This morning at Fajr time, my eldest was super tired. His sleep schedule had been off all weekend so he really wanted to stay in and sleep.
When he got up out of bed he fell into my arms because he was so tired and cold. He then asked me if he could pray later (qada’a).
I held him tightly, warmed him up as best as I could, and then told him the prayer would be out by then and now that he was up, he should pray. But that he could go back to bed and catch up on his sleep when he was finished. He agreed, reluctantly, of course.
It was still dark so I walked him to the bathroom. For his comfort, I didn’t turn the bright bathroom light on but used the flashlight on my phone instead. I had just made wudu a few minutes earlier so I knew the warm water would come quickly and reassured him about that. He made wudu, and when he came out I had my big fluffy robe ready for him. He wrapped it tightly around himself. I grabbed a hat from the closet that my mother-in-law knitted for me and put it on his head. He was all cozy and warm, and suddenly very giggly; he hadn’t seen himself, but the thought of how he looked made him laugh. He said he was my twin and then decided he was going to go wake up his dad for prayer…as me! He changed his voice to sound like mine and woke him up. 🙂
When I told him to come and pray his sunnah alongside me, he said with a big smile on his face, “Mommy, I’m totally awake now and want to stay up!” 🙂
We prayed our sunnahs and then I led him in prayer. I read two surahs, Al-Ma’un and An-Naas, and when we finished the prayer I went over the meanings of both.
In the first surah I explained how Allah (swt) warns those who are heedless with their prayer, and in the second surah I explained how shaitan whispers in our hearts and how we have to seek refuge from his whisperings.
I then explained the concept of jihad an nafs and told him that his nafs was struggling when he asked about doing his prayer late, even though he was awake, and that shaitan is the one who likely put that thought in his mind. I also told him that I could have easily let my own heart as a mother get in the way and tell him he could go back to sleep, but that would have been irresponsible of me. It was my job to help him strengthen his nafs and help him when shaitan is trying to attack him, not give in and let him lose out and create bad habits where every time he gets those thoughts, his nafs and shaitan win.
Finally, I told him that alhamdulillah, even though he was at first reluctant to do it, he was able to push past his nafs and did it, and he should be proud of himself for that. And alhamdulillah, he ended up having a fun time, which was not planned at all, but a blessing from Allah nonetheless. 🙂
Parents, in the formative years of establishing good prayer habits, we have to be firm but also compassionate. We have to try to make the process easy for our children and be there with them during the difficult times, not just give them the command and expect them to fall in line.
If we’re able to turn around every negative association with prayer, every inconvenience, every moment of fatigue and difficulty, into a positive one, we will help them immensely in the long run.
So, if your children complain about ANY part of the prayer being too difficult, too uncomfortable, etc., don’t get mad at them and tell them to suck it up and be tough. Realize what is happening–they are under spiritual attack! Push back against shaitan, NOT them!
DESTROY shaitan’s every mode of attack! Be there for your children if you have to, pick them up, let them feel your presence, hear your reassurance, AND hear you champion them along with loving and kind words.
Make prayer a JOINT effort, pray with them and make it a beautiful and loving event they WANT to do, not just a “chore” they HAVE to do. And please, when they are between 7 and 10 and establishing their prayer, PLEASE don’t just leave them to fend for themselves.
Be there with them. In time they will become completely independent of you and you won’t need to handhold them, but until then, do it and enjoy it. Their love for you will increase, and more importantly, they will associate those beautiful feelings with prayer and with their Lord, God-willing.
May Allah ﷻ guide us and guide our children and protect us all from anything that comes between us and prayer. Amin.
Here are some ways of getting the excitement going:
- Have a Sala-bration!I attended a “sala-bration” party at a friend’s house after her daughter turned 7 (7 is the age that children begin to pray their 5 daily prayers). At the party, there was an amazing salaah quiz, the kids prayed together, and every child received a parting gift of the 30th juz’ and a lovely hijab. In lieu of gifts, all the guests were asked to write a letter to the little girl letting her know why salaah was special to them. (From Ruqaya’s Bookshelf on FB)
(P.S. this is a great idea for buloogh too!)
Hina Khan-Mukhtar said:
“When each of my boys turned 7 years old, I bought them beautiful journals which I gave to my friends and family to fill with inspiring messages about prayer. A few of my more “crafty” friends went all out and used their art supplies to create elaborate 3-D cards complete with embossed ink and sequined beads. My parents and my in-laws each wrote messages to their grandsons, sharing their hopes and wishes for their futures with them. Older cousins wrote about how prayer helps them in good times and in bad; aunties and uncles gave advice on what helps them get through “prayer slumps” which — if we are truly honest — are bound to come in one’s life at some point or another. I remember my husband Zeeshan getting teary-eyed as he read his message aloud to our middle son Ameen. The general theme was one of encouragement and excitement. It’s been almost 10 years since I put together those gifts for my older two sons, and even now, I will sometimes catch them perusing their Prayer Books with smiles on their faces as they read the heartfelt messages to themselves.”
- Have a Salaah Club!
This article is choc-ful of ideas, like having a Salaah cheer, doing some experiments to show the effect of the salaah on us, etc. Check them out here: https://www.patheos.com/blogs/growmama/spirituality/salah-club-i/
- Put a prayer pack together for them!
Get them set up with their own prayer mat, compass, etc – and why not make the gifting a special occasion?!
Hina Khan-Mukhtar has said this:
“We make sure to equip each of our cars with what I like to call “a prayer pack” — a small knapsack that contains a clean prayer mat, a bottle of water for wudu (ablutions), a squeeze bottle for istinja (ritual washing of the private parts after using the toilet), a compass for ascertaining the Qibla (direction of the Ka’aba in Makkah for prayer), and a prayer garment that will cover any woman who is in need of one. Before smart phones arrived on the scene, I used to keep a print-out of the month’s prayer timings in the pack as well. This prayer pack ensured that I didn’t need to worry about whether I had the ability to fulfill my prayers properly and on time or not.”
- This is so cute! And i love the verse that Towards Jannah used which sums it up perfectly: As the Almighty tells us in S.Shams, ‘And by the soul and He who perfected it’ ‘He inspired the soul to know what is wrong and right’ (91:7-8)May Allah help us to keep blowing that flame inside their little hearts Inshallah!
- This cropped up on my FB feed and was super-inspiring:
“Assalamu alaikum everyone. I am an American Muslim convert and I wanted to share a personal story of never losing hope in God’s mercy. I had a very difficult pregnancy with my youngest daughter Laila, Alhumdulillah. I started showing signs of a miscarriage at 14 or 16 weeks after starting to recover from severe morning sickness in my first trimester. At 18 weeks my placenta ruptured and I almost lost my baby. Then at 24 weeks I went into pre-term labor. I was on bedrest for most of my pregnancy, I was in and out of the hospital a lot, I could barely walk during my second and third trimester, and I was frequently in a lot of pain. The doctors and nurses told me that I needed to prepare for the worst and that my baby most likely wouldn’t make it. However I refused to lose hope and lose my optimism. I told them that God can make the impossible possible. He says “be” and it is. I had my family and some of the best Muslims in the world praying for my baby and me Alhumduillah. No matter how much pain I was in or had been in, I would sit up every night and pray Qiam Al-Lail (the Night Prayer), and would ask God to save my baby girl and ask that she be born health and at full term. SubhanAllah she lasted 37 weeks of this difficult pregnancy and was born healthy via an emergency c-section. To this day I wake up every night, no matter how tired or sleep deprived I am, just to pray Qiam Al-Lail prayer. It’s almost like it has become a part of me, and I couldn’t imagine living a life without it. I named my daughter Laila. Her named is derived from the Arabic word Lail which means “Night.” And with the extra letter on the end, her name means “extreme happiness”.” – Erica
A super lecture on Family and Spirituality by Sh Nuru Mohammed. I love how it fits in so well with the philosophy of Parenting by Connection (www.facebook.com/ParentingbyConnectionwithShaheenMerali).
Love this video 🙂 Have seen it before but found it again when searching something on the net.
Reminded me of how the Prophet was with Hassan and Husayn, his grandchildren! What lessons there are in this for us as parents 🙂
‘When these two princes grew up a little, and were able to toddle around, they very frequently wandered out of their house into the Mosque. If their grandfather was in the midst of a sermon, he immediately stopped, descended from the pulpit, took them in his arms, carried them back, seated them beside himself on the pulpit, and then resumed his speech. If he was leading the public prayers, and was in sajdah (resting his forehead on the ground), both children, very often, climbed onto his neck and back.
He preferred to prolong the sajdah rather than to disturb them, and rose from sajdah only when they dismounted from his neck or back voluntarily. If he went out of his home or the Mosque, they rode his shoulders. The people of Medina called them “the Riders of the Shoulders of the Messenger of God.”’
And how about this one? Here is another lovely example of patience towards children while praying – if you don’t want to watch the whole thing, skip to the end when he finishes! Beautiful…
This is a great rhyme to sing with our children as we act out the actions… it has been often used in Madressa classes with success!
(To the tune of Here we go round the Mulberry bush!)
We Are Muslims 1 – WUDU’ (Lyrics)
|Vs. 1 This is the way we make wudu’,|
make wudu’, make wudu’.
This is the way we make wudu’ before we say our prayer.Vs. 2 This is the way we wash our hands,
wash our hands, wash our hands.
This is the way we wash our hands when we make our wudu’.
Vs. 3 This is the way we wash our mouth,
Vs. 4 This is the way we wash our nose,
Vs. 5 This is the way we wash our face,
Vs. 6 This is the way we wash our arms,
Vs. 7 This is the way we wash our head,
Vs. 8 This is the way we wash our feet,
Vs. 9 Now we are Muslims nice and clean,
Lyrics by Noor Saadeh
Wudhu Idea 2: THIS app!
So I was all set to share a book I had which had some good pictures and explanation for wudhu, and when i went to look for where to get it, i found this! It’s now an app that is free to download!
It is not just about Wudhu but is about all of salat, which will be useful i’m sure! Although aimed at children, it’s not totally child-friendly in terms of the layout and wording used, but the images alongside your explanation should hopefully do the trick.