As a follow on from the previous post…
We want our children to try and stay awake but be busy enough to let us do our amaal, right? And it would be great if they were occupied in Islamic activities as opposed to just normal stuff!
– Setting up a book area for them: www.islamfromthestart.com/2014/07/ramadhan-bookshelf.html
– Having a special treasure hunt for the children: www.tjannah.com/ramadhan/laylatul-qadr-treasure-hunt/
– Downloading some Muslim Children Apps on the ipad and phone: see this link for a round up of the good ones out there! http://buzzideazz.com/category/apps/
– Having some Islamic games available for them to play with (siblings are ideal here!) – some examples are Islamic Slides and Ladders, The Prophet’s Game, Brain Quest, Salaat Cards, (all available from www.buzzideazz.com), the Tasbih Game, the Ramadan board game (shared earlier), etc…
– Having some craft materials ready for them to make Eid cards and other crafts. Why not use the Islamic stencil to help them along the way! http://buzzideazz.com/shop/islamic-stencil/
– Having some Islamic cartoons/programmes ready for them to watch (Inshallah am planning to cover this as a series soon!
-Get them to think about Sura Qadr in a fun way! A mum sent this: “For Laylatul Qadr we have created a balloon tree. We have a question about Suratul Qadr written in each balloon. The kids will pop the balloon and answer the question – and will receive a small treat for each correct answer!”
Any other ideas out there?
P.S. Loved this idea of amalgamating things into a Laylatul Qadr Gift Box by Islam from the Start:
“Seeing all the lovely welcome Ramadhan baskets, made to instill the excitement for the blessed month, inspired me to put together a simple Laylatul Qadr Box for the little one. Along with the main A’maal book are a few treats and activities to keep him busy through the night. There’s two new books, ‘A Picnic of Poems: In Allah’s Green Garden’ which comes with a CD, and ‘The Adventures of Captain Alif And The Stormy Sea’. It’s a gift pack set and comes with a tasbeeh and dua bookmark. There’s also a T-Shirt and some fabric markers to make a personalised top illustrating what Laylatul Qadr means to him. And finally after reading on QFatima about it being a night to show appreciation to those close to you, there’s a special letter written for the little one. InshaAllah, I hope the Qadr box will help to leave a positive lasting memory of this blessed night, one spent in His remembrance with love.”
The 23rd night is upon us! Just thought I’d share some thoughts with you…
The last two Laylatul Qadr nights have come and gone, and one thing I realised quite early on is that if our children are staying up (or trying to), they can take up quite a lot of our time… while I was trying to help them with all the little bits and bobs (as well as answer questions, get them comfortable, etc), I was also very conscious of the precious minutes ticking away.
So tonight I am going to dedicate a little time to them to get them started, but then I am going to leave them to it, whatever they choose to do. Because tonight is about me and my God. Inshallah they will have many years ahead of them to benefit from this awesome night, but right now they are not even baaligh yet and it is MY responsibility to pray for them tonight.
The balance between helping them and helping ourselves is hard, and may Allah give us the tawfeeq to get it right! May we utilise this night to the max, and may we feel the ‘Salaam’ coming down on us Inshallah
If I may, please could I sincerely request you to remember me and my family (and Buzz Ideazz!) in your duas tonight (write us down on your lists please!).
You, my Buzz family, are in mine 🙂
This one is for the parents. PLEASE take some time out of your day to listen to this. It will help you prepare for Qadr in an amazing way!
It inspired me no end and I have been WAITING for it to be uploaded so i can share it with you 🙂
Here is one way to ensure that the precious time during the nights of Qadr do not get wasted!
Created by Zakira Ummi Merali (QFatima), I have adopted its use to make it a bit more child-friendly – use according to your child’s age! Older children will be staying up longer and so will be able to do more, and so on… but remember, it’s QUALITY not quantity! Don’t force too much on them. Even if they want to stay up but not do the activities and just read, that’s OK – it’s a balance…
This is just a preview of the Time management sheet – to download and print, see the dropbox link below.
TIME MANAGEMENT FOR LAYLATUL QADR – 19th Night of RAMADHAN – 17th July, 2014
9.21pm – Maghrib and Isha Salaat – IFTAR (eat light!)
10.30pm – Duas and Amaal
1.30am – Recite Sura Qadr/Dua ‘Ahad (Nur), have sehri, do ghusl and pray the Night Prayer
2.49am – Fajr Salaat and Recite Quran
This is witnessed as per 17:78 – “Indeed the dawn recital is attended [by angels].”
5.06am – Sunrise – do one last sajdah and then go to sleep!
SUGGESTED ACTIVITIES (to fill in the empty boxes of time):
• Write down a list of things you are grateful for
• Write down a list of things you are sorry about
• Write down a list of people to pray for
• Write down a list of your duas for the year ahead
• Think about your goals for yourself for the year ahead – break it down into physical goals, spiritual goals, mental goals and emotional goals
• Think about all the things that may be stopping you from these goals
• Do a craft activity on Laylatul Qadr
• Write a letter to the 12th Imam
• Read a book about the Imams
• Do an Islamic workbook
• Go into Sajdah and just talk to Allah
*See www.buzzideazz.com/tag/laylatul-qadr/ for a more comprehensive look at Laylatul Qadr activities, ways to pray for children and craft ideas.
As the biggest night approaches quickly, just have a question for all mums out there. As it is holidays for most, and with summer nights being shorter, many children are staying up until Fajr, or as much as possible.
Once back from mosque with main amaals done, what do your children do? Once mine have thought about and written their duas and done a bit, I encourage them to read or look at the Islamic books/stories we have at home to help pass the time…would love any other suggestions?
P.S. When asked this on facebook, here is a great reply I got: “We design and handmake eid cards, prep and do eid poster and wrap eid gifts and goodies, meanwhile keep jawshane kabeer playing in the background… Or any other dua… We also try baking treats at night… For older kids – watching movies from shiasource.com, such as Yusuf , or doing salatul Layl…”
This link may come in handy for younger children: http://www.crayola.com/coloring-pages/ramadan.aspx
And how about these sheets for older children to work through: http://db.tt/LhJuQV8E
P.P.S. We also got sent in a picture of Laylatul Qadr cookies someone made which we have shared on this post!
Here is an idea for your older children – Make them a Laylatul Qadr kit!
I had received this last year before the 23rd night from my MM (see last year’s post: http://buzzideazz.com/mystery-muliani/) and because it was soooo lovely, I could not bring myself to throw it away, I put all the respective things away (the ones that I hadn’t eaten/used during the nights that is!) and stuck the sheet on my bulletin board instead.
I thought it might be something awesome to give to teenagers preparing for Laylatul Qadr, as they are now old enough to understand the deeper concepts behind the night, and also behind the different things that are in the kit! Some of the objects are practical as well as meaningful, others just cool to have
So Inshallah I pray this comes in handy and that you have fun looking for a spare puzzle piece that you don’t need anymore . If you don’t have one, make one!
Here is the info on the sheet so you don’t have to type it all out again but can just copy and paste and adjust yourselves:
Paper Clip: To keep things together when they seem to be slipping out of control
Eraser: To rub out last year’s mistakes
Toothpick: To pick the good qualities in everyone
Rubber band: Be flexible. Things might not always go the way you want
Gum: Stick with it and you can accomplish anything
Pen and notebook: List your blessings everyday
Tissue: To wipe away a tear. Your own or someone elses
Lifesavers: Sometimes we all need a little help
Nuts: Be a little nutty sometimes and have a laugh
Puzzle piece: Because you are an important piece of so many lives
So we decided to make the Laylatul Qadr kits as part of my kiddo’s 30 day good deed challenge (http://husaynzainab.blogspot.co.uk/) – here they are!
For those of you who can’t find everything you need, here are a few suggestions based on the changes we made:
Instead of lifesavers we used Tic Tacs: Sometimes we all need to chill and play games
When we ran out of gum we used the same line but with Stickers: Stick with it and you can accomplish anything
We also used Mentos: Find a mentor in life to guide you
And finally we used Fruit Nuggets as well: Look for the treasure in everybody you meet
*** Alhamd some of you sent in your pics of your own kits that you’ve made:
- Here is another example of an innovative Laylatul Qadr kit!
- FZ and mum prepared for Laylatul Qadr in this bright but very meaningful (and fun!) way:
“FZ’s Laylatul Qadr Kit:
Sadaqa envelope – to take out Sadaqa at the beginning, middle and end of the night.
‘Kun Fayakun’ Wand – to remind us that Allah is All Powerful to grant our hajaat on these Nights of Qadr (Destiny). Suratul Qadr translation on the back for FZ to recite. FZ has also drawn and written in her hajaat on the back, such as to go for Hajj Insh, to be able to recite the Qur’an fluently…
Qur’an for Amaal – I’ve also included a sheet listing stories, qualities for each of the Ma’sumeen that we call upon, that FZ knows, so that she can Insh form a picture of each one in her heart as we ask our hajaat and pray for herself to Insh acquire these qualities.
Crafty cut outs representing 3 suwer with key concepts on the back – our ticket to Jannah!
Sura Ankabut: Allah tells us that we are like spiders, building webs around ourselves with our bad deeds, habits and loving others besides Allah. These make the weakest houses.
As we do the Istighfar tasbeeh, with each count, FZ will pelt the Ankabut with mini pom pom ‘stones’ and think of what she needs to get rid of, say sorry for etc. to break free from the web and get closer to Allah Insh!
Sura Dukhan (smoke shaped cut out): the smoke that shall engulf before the Day of Qiyamah. Allah has made the Qur’an easy to learn and memorise, so we should strive to understand it.
Sura Rum (Roman princess cut out): Allah tells us to think about the powerful empires of the past, take lessons and know that nothing will benefit us except good deeds. Think about His amazing signs in creation all around us, and all His blessings.
Mini Dua Flip Book listing recommended actions:
Start with Bismillah
Salaam to Imame Zamana
Alhamdulillah – think of how awesome Allah is, and thank Him for all he’s blessed us with!
Dua for those suffering: in Palestine, Iraq, Syria and other countries
Dua for friends, family
Dua Makarimul Akhlaq – read extract with mummy and ask Allah to grant you the best of manners
Dua Jawshan Kabeer – read section 5 with mummy for success! Ask Allah to grant you the strongest armour for protection
Ziyarat of Imam Husayn – recite short salaam to be in the company of our Prophets, Imams in Jannah!
End with Salawaat
Al Baseer Moonsighting Telescope – every time we sight the waning moon until the end of the month, we will recite an extract from Dua 44 of Sahifatus Sajjadiyya:
O Allah, make my sins disappear along with the waning of the crescent moon.
Handkerchief to collect Tears of Mourning for Imam Ali as, Imam Husayn as and Shuhada e Karbala. Insh this will serve as Light and Shafa in the grave and on the Day of Qiyamah.
Areedha to write to Imam e Zamana.
3. And here is one for mums!
Laylatul Qadr nights are when our destiny is decreed. We need to therefore be clear what it is we want in the year ahead so that we can sincerely pray for this.
Here is one way we can focus our goals and wishes in a clear and simple way (as shown by Ummi aunty Merali, a legend :)):
Split a paper into 4 and give them the headings: Body, Brain, Soul and Heart (or for older children: Physical, Mental, Emotional, Spiritual). Then add goals/wishes under these titles. Some examples have been given in the picture.
A quick note – Emotional refers to us engaging with others, and Spiritual refers to us engaging with Allah!
Teaching children HOW to pray:
Praying for everything can get a bit overwhelming (even for us adults), so here is a way to simplify it (and cover all the bases!).
– Sandwich your dua! Begin and end with Salawat (Allah will always fulfil that dua and so Inshallah will fulfil everything in the middle!)
– Start by glorifying Allah – his amazing creations, etc.
– Then thank Allah for everything he has given YOU
– Move on to asking for forgiveness for any mistakes you have made, big or small
– Then pray for OTHERS
– Finally, move on to praying for yourself
-Don’t forget the salawat at the end!
P.S. I have heard this in lectures before and am sure I have seen a source too but can’t seem to find it just now (will keep looking). If you know of a source, please do share!
Give out sadqa at the 3 different parts of the nights of Qadr (last 10 odd nights plus the 24th night):
Having read this in a summary of lecture notes by Zakira Tahera Jaffer, I asked the kids to make 3 different envelopes each (with paper and sellotape as I didn’t have any small money envelopes at home!).
They then labelled them accordingly. We actually didn’t manage to give the sadqa yesterday as we were at mosque for the first and second part, but they got the concept at least, and Inshallah we will try to make it work tomorrow night!
Here’s something that will make the ‘Istighfar’ part of the night of Laylatul Qadr come to life for children (and us!)… I tried this last night with my two and I think it really sank in (i did 10 crosses though…maybe this can be adjusted according to the age/capability of the child).
Thank you again, Islam From the Start!
“The little one’s Laylatul Qadr prayer book is ready. To involve him and help him understand the tasbeeh, I have marked 70 pencil Xs. Each one is to be rubbed out with his ‘Al Ghafoor’ eraser after every recitation of ‘Astaghfirullaha wa atoobu ilayh’. We pray Allah Al Ghafoor, will insha’Allah accept our forgiveness and rub out the wrong actions from the book of deeds that the angels have been writing in.
You can read about our learning the Asma ul Husna, Al-Ghaffor on last year’s blog post.