Idea 15: Make a 'gift' pack from ziyarat together


Idea 15: Make a ‘gift’ pack from Ziyarat together

Last but not least, one of the customs for zawwaar is to buy things from this holy trip for family and friends back home who were not lucky enough to be there!

Why not include your children in this process of choosing the right things for the right person, including their friends. Then once home, make it extra-special by encouraging/helping them to write a little note to go with it, explaining why they are giving those things and the significance behind the items.

Inshallah, it will give it that personal touch, as well as making it very meaningful for both, giver and recipient.

It may also reinforce the importance of giving gifts in Islam, for the Prophet (saw) has said: “A gift brings about affection, reinforces brotherhood, and removes grudges. Give gifts to each other and you will love each other.” (Bihar al-Anwar, v. 77, p. 166, no. 2)

* That concludes this series for now! Would love to know of any other ideas that anyone going to ziyarat this year had, once you get back Inshallah…

* And on the off-chance that anyone is reading this while there, Iltemase Dua!

Idea 13: Equip them with child-friendly dua cards


Idea 13: Equip Them with Child-Friendly Dua Cards!

The duas and ziyarats etc that one recites on this amazing trip are an essential part. Dua Cards especially altered to be accessible for children are made by:

She’s headed off for ziyarat herself, but save this one for the future Inshallah!


Idea 14: Make a dua list


Idea 14: Make a Dua List

One thing that EVERYONE asks a zawwaar is to pray for them, and often many zawwaar make a list of people they want to pray for, or people that have asked them to pray for them, etc.

Why not have your child make their own list? They might surprise you with who they put down! It could be part of their diary/journal, or a separate thing altogether…

Idea 12: Make a will with them

Idea 12: Make a will with them

Making a will is also something adults do before they go, in case anything happens during the trip. This is something that is highly encouraged in Islam at all times anyway, as death can befall us at any time and any age – something which the recent tragic events in Dar-es-Salaam have reminded us of again starkly 🙁

Perhaps the trip to ziyarat is a good time to introduce the concept of preparing for our inevitable end…

Maybe sit down with the children and make a will with them; again adjust according to their capabilities, from deciding who gets their toys and clothes, to any prayers/fasts that may be pending.

For younger children, maybe make it a fun activity, with the whole rolling up of the will, tying with a ribbon, sealing with candle and all that…as long as the concept of preparation is introduced, it doesn’t need to be morbid!

It may bring on a serious discussion on death however, which is a whole other series in itself i think. Would love to hear from parents who have approached the issue with their children and any tips on how to do this?


Idea 11: Encourage them to make amends


Idea 11: Encourage them to make amends

Tying up loose ends, paying any debts, asking for forgiveness and basically trying to clean the slate are things all zawwaar do before they embark on this trip, to try and make the trip as spirituallybeneficial as possible…

What if we encouraged our children to do the same, according to their capabilities? They can say sorry for anything they may have done to their siblings, cousins, friends, etc (perhaps after sitting and reflecting and making a list), return any books or toys or money they may have borrowed, and ensure that any pending things they need to do are completed!

As they grow older, the understanding and level at which they do this will change, but inshallah even at a young age, they can have an awareness of these concepts among others…

– accountability for their actions
– the importance of making amends
– how actions affect how close they can get to Allah
– the importance of returning amanat
– the importance of fulfilling any tasks they have

And finally, it may even hopefully make saying sorry in general that wee bit easier!

Idea 10: Take the Lyrics for their Favourite Marthiyas and Nawhas


Idea 10: Take the Lyrics for their Favourite Marthiyas and Nawhas

As one mum said, she makes sure she packs these in for her children to express themselves in the harams of these Noble Personalities.

Check out a whole range. Audio: –

Voice of Passion have also been very inspirational for the slightly older generation – check their Marthiyas and Nawhas out at

Idea 9: Encourage them to eat less meat beforehand and/or fast


Idea 9: Encourage them to eat less meat beforehand and/or fast

Cutting down on meat and fasting for the last 3 days ( (page 7)) before the trip is also highly recommended.

If your children are too young, encouraging them to eat less, and perhaps less of the junky food, may be a good way to emphaises this aspect. It will also stress the importance of how what we eat affects our spiritual state – a good reminder for us parents as well!

Idea 8: The Bag of Sweets


Idea 8: The Bag of Sweets!

Don’t lose hope with the bag of sweets though! I’m sure many people in the group you’re travelling with will love a pick-me-up 🙂

Also, if your intention is to give it out as Fateha…it’s a great opportunity to explain/reinforce the concept of Fateha being a gift to the Marhumeen with your children!

Idea 7: Good Ol' Socks


Idea 7: Good ol’ Socks

So I’ve heard the idea “take some sweets to hand out to the children on the street” several times, and have also seen it in a book or two. But I think times are changing as when I spoke to someone who is inshallah headed there soon, she mentioned that a recent zawaar said that when they tried to do this, the children actually refused the sweet stuff, and asked just for cash!!

However, groups are advised NOT to give out cash on the street, but to donate it to established projects, such as the orphanage, etc. It got me thinking though, as to how bad we feel when we pass beggars but don’t give them anything, usually ducking our heads and walking quickly by, feeling guilty all the way.

Have you ever seen those vendors on the streets though? The ones that sell small things that we usually don’t need? Socks, pens and that sort of thing? I know I normally pass them without a second thought, except perhaps a quick dismissal thinking along the lines of ‘those socks will only last a day!’

And yet they are out there, trying to earn a living through whatever means they can, and choosing this struggle over the humiliation of begging, which is also frowned upon and highly discouraged in Islam.

So here’s a thought…next time we pass such a vendor on the street, perhaps we can buy that pair of socks? Perhaps Allah wants to give him halal rizq through us that day? And hey, maybe those socks will last us a lifetime 😉

Idea 6: Keep a Scrapbook


Idea 6: Keep a Scrapbook

Scrapbooking can be sooo fun to do with children! And it is especially more meaningful when you are saving mementos from a journey like ziyarat.

From a store bought book to a few pieces of coloured paper stapled together, there are so many options that it can be as simple or as complicated as you want to get! The main thing is that you save the little ticket stubs, hotel receipts, etc…and, given the importance of it, why not collect some sand from each place you go?

Then once you’re home, print out all those photos, combine the two, add some info and voila! Along with the journal/diary, your memories will be safe to cherish for a lifetime, Inshallah…


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