Mother-Daughter Sehri

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In line with making gatherings meaningful in Ramadan, here’s another idea! Last Ramadan, my 11 year old daughter and I held a joint sehri!

There were 6 girls and their mums… as they came in, they were given a sheet of questions to fill out – the mother sheet was different to the daughter’s one – and they weren’t allowed to look at each others! Here is a copy of the sheets.

They also filled out a little slip of paper each – for the girls, the question was: What’s one thing you find hard to discuss with your mother? and for the mums, the question was: What’s one thing you wish your daughter would talk to you about? No names were placed on these to allow safety for both parties to put down any topic they wanted! Here is a copy of the sheet.

We then put these aside and got to the fun stuff ๐Ÿ™‚

First up was an obstacle course where each mother-daughter pair was tied together (literally), as if in a three-legged race. Each pair then had to complete an obstacle course which was timed, and the mother-daughter pair that did it in the quickest time, won! The course included bouncing a ball each 5 times, maneuvering the ball in and out of the cushions, lifting the hula hoop over and under the pair together and then running back to the start!

Next was a game where the mums were one team against the daughters. It involved a lot of skittles on a plate, a spoon, and no hands! Mums and daughters faced each other across the plate with only a spoon in their mouths, and the task was to use the spoon to lift as many skittles off the plate and on to a bowl in 1 minute. The group that got the most skittles at the end, were the winners. I am proud to say that the mums beat the daughters for this one ๐Ÿ˜‰

The final game played was a lego communications exercise. Each person received an envelope full of lego pieces – each mother-daughter pair had an identical pack. They then had to put their backs against each other so they couldn’t see each other. The daughters then had 1 min to make a lego creation with what they had, then they had a few minutes to explain their creation (using words/description only – no visuals!) so that their mums could recreate their creation. The mother-daughter pair with the closest resembling creation won! Lots of lessons on communication were extracted from this – such as how simple words can be misunderstood, how communication needs to be as clear as possible, and how shouting to make yourself understood doesn’t help!

We then moved on to the highlight – foooood ๐Ÿ™‚ – and while we ate we opened up the small chits they anonymously filled out right at the beginning, and started discussing the issues that came up – things like puberty, friendships, school, etc. Alhamd a fruitful and varied discussion was had!

Finally, last on the agenda was using the sheets they had filled out right at the beginning to see how well mothers and daughters knew each other! The aim was just to have fun and be lighthearted while we learnt about each other, as opposed to test the pair! Each mother-daughter pair took a turn sitting on the sofa and being the centre of attention. I then looked through their sheets and asked them random questions based on it – i would ask the daughters from the mum’s sheet, e.g. what’s your mum’s worst chore to do around the house? and vice versa, e.g what’s your daughter’s favourite movie? We only did about 3 questions each before moving on to the next pair. Each mother-daughter used their time on the hot spot well, cudding close and some very sweet photos were taken during this time!

And so ended a lovely evening where mums and daughters enjoyed quality time with each other, learning more about each other, as well as getting to know the other mums and daughters in the group too!

Journals/Diaries/Workbooks for Ramadan

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Baligha Series - Idea 16: Baligha Cards

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And to finally wrap up the buloogh series (she says!), how about these Buzz cards?

They each have a poem inside ๐Ÿ™‚

Here is an example:

“Now that you are finally nine,
Life’s going to get even more divine!

Ready for the journey ahead, shiny and bright?
Responsibilities await but opportunities too…

Fasten your seat belt and hold on tight,
God’s gifts and blessings are waiting for you!”

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Buloogh and Panic!

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Just a last thought on Buloogh before I wrap up the topic and we go on to something else…

One interesting thing a mum said was that one thing she didn’t expect was the panic she felt abut a month before her daughter turned 9 Islamically. And she said she now knows that a lot of other mums faced it too…

Inshallah it is our hope and prayer that through the ideas, resources and thoughts shared in this series, an element of that panic will be decreased! And of course, knowingย that it is normal to feel that way helps too ๐Ÿ™‚

May our daughters embrace turning 9 and this new phase of their lives Inshallah! And may Allah give us the tawfeeq to be able to guide them throught it ๐Ÿ™‚

Baligha Series - Idea 14: Make it a mother-daughter moment

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The last idea for the series is the most sentimental ๐Ÿ™‚

Make it a special transition by doing something different, just the two of you – going away for the weekend, going for a walk by the beach (on a full moon!), going for a spa day, going for a hike…anything that is out of the norm and that will also allow you the space to talk and share thoughts ๐Ÿ™‚

Baligha Series - Idea 13: Meaningful Gifts

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Make the buloogh birthday extra special by adding meaningful gifts!

One family gifted their daughter 9 gifts, one for each year. She started opening one a day each day, leading up to her actual birthday – this made the excitement truly stretch out!

The gifts given from each member of the family, as well as general gifts around buloogh:

  1. A father-daughter necklace/keychain from the dad
  2. A mother-daughter journal from the mum
  3. A personalised cushion from the brother
  4. A shela hanger
  5. A pin cushion
  6. A QFatima Buloogh journal
  7. A prayer pack, with a musalla, dua book, mohr/tasbih, perfume, prayer book (to write down kazas, etc), travel toilet bottle and a travel musalla (Another idea here is to gift them a Risalah of their Mujtahid!)
  8. Her buloogh party counted as one giftย ๐Ÿ˜‰
  9. Her birthday ‘card’ counted as a gift as it was a book of meaningful messages by her family and friends ๐Ÿ™‚ (https://www.buzzideazz.com/baligha-series-idea-11-gather-messages-from-loved-ones/)

Other ideas include:

The women that were invited to mark this special moment in the girl’s life were encouraged to give a special sort of gift – something of theirs that was meaningful and significant to them that they were passing on to her, such as a piece of jewellery from when they were younger, a poem that touched them, a book that they loved, a journal to write her thoughts in, a special photograph, etc.

Now that’s what I call a thoughtful gift ๐Ÿ™‚

Baligha Series - Idea 12: Wisdom Necklace

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I loved, loved, loved this idea!

So with buloogh parties, the girls celebrated with friends, but what about marking the moment with the loving women in our child’s life?

A friend was telling me how they marked a girl’s ‘coming of age’ by gathering all the important women in the girl’s life, such as the grandmothers, aunts and other close women. Prior to this, the girl was asked to think of questions she would like to ask (could be on anything she wanted to know), and she thought of a number of questions, and who she would like to answer what question.

On the day, each lady went into a room with the young girl and answered the question she had been given. At the end of each question, the girl got a bead to put together as a necklace of beads (or ‘pearls of wisdom’ :)), and the lady too got a bead as a reminder of this day and moment.

Needless to say, the beads are a treasured reminder of all the advice given to the young girl, both for her and the ladies involved!

Baligha Series - Idea 10: Buloogh Camps

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Following on from the idea of having a one-day Buloogh Club, how about a weekend camp idea?

COEJ (Council of European Jamaats) organise such a thing and here is what one girl said after just recently coming back from one!:

“I was looking forward to the camp so much I was counting the days. Even though it was my first time away from home I wasn’t nervous.

The camp was in Milton Keynes. My mum dropped me to Milton Keynes in the car. I bought a very big suitcase with me which had lots of clothes and other things that were on the list.

We got into groups and did fun ice-breaker activities to get to know each other. There were 36 girls altogether. We played lots of games and made loom bracelets.

We slept in our sleeping bags on the floor of the mosque. It was quite comfortable. We talked for a long time after the lights went out. In the middle of the night we got up for fajr.

The next day we went to activity centre. We did rock climbing, sledging, ice sliding, bowling and shopping all in one day. When we got back we did more activities like decorating cupcakes. Then we got dressed up because it was Mehraj night.

The next day in the morning we had a buloogh workshop and we talked about dressing properly when we become baligh and what kind of clothes we should wear. We did a fashion show.

In the afternoon we went to the food bank and we helped sort out food parcels for people who don’t have enough food to eat.

On our last night we had a lovely midnight feast with lots of doughnuts and chocolate and sweets and crisps. It was amazing.

If I can I will go again next year inshallah.”

P.S. If you live places where these sorts of Buloogh Clubs/Camps don’t exist, I hope this provides the incentive to organise such a thing! I am sure the current organisers would be more than willing to share content, tips, ideas, etc if you get in touch with them ๐Ÿ™‚

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