'Salah-bration' Parties! A great idea for buloogh also :)


From Ruqaya’s Bookshelf on FB:

A few weeks ago, I did a live with @hafsacreates about how to create “Muslim culture” in your home. We discussed some lovely ideas, and here’s another one!

I attended a “salah-bration” party at a friend’s house after her daughter turned 7 (7 is the age that children begin to pray their 5 daily prayers). At the party, there was an amazing salah quiz, the kids prayed together, and every child received a parting gift of the 30th juz’ and a lovely hijab.

In lieu of gifts, all the guests were asked to write a letter to the little girl letting her know why salah was special to them.

What a beautiful way to celebrate the beginning of a lifetime of turning to Allah (swt).

I love this idea because it’s a way to highlight the kinds of things we want our kids to value.

May Allah swt guide all of us to continually turn to Him ❤️

Ta'leem and Tarbiya


Salman al-Odah was asked, “How do you get your kids to love the salah?”

The first thing he said was, “Have them love you.”

Learn this life lesson: tarbiyah is founded upon relationship.

Tarbiyah is the raising up and education of a child such that she can reach her full potential as a human and a Muslim. It is different than ta’leem, which refers to fact-based education.

We often confuse the two, giving our children ta’leem when they need tarbiyah.

Ta’leem is teaching our children the how-to of the prayer. Memorizing the duas, learning the positions.

Tarbiyah is the cuddling after the prayer when we ask each other, “What did you ask for in sajdah?”

Ta’leem is memorizing ahadeeth and verses.

Tarbiyah is the dinner-table banter where we talk current events and other issues on our mind.

Ta’leem is studying fiqh.

Tarbiyah is the loving conversation we have about an incident that happened at school.

Ta’leem is studying seerah by memorizing dates and events or preparing for a quiz bowl.

Tarbiyah is snuggling in bed and telling stories of brave heroes of the past.

When we were at Umrah, Ustadh Abu Eesa stressed this point a great deal and it has caused a seismic shift in my own approach to teaching my children. I had asked him if he had a suggested program of study for school-aged children. He responded by saying that he was no expert on education and he would leave that to the experienced teachers to develop such a program. He directed us instead to focus our efforts on building relationships with our children as our tarbiyah.

“Tarbiyah,” he explained, “is an emotional, not a physical exercise.”

He went on to explain that in the Qur’an, we are taught the dua for the parents as follows: “O Allah, have mercy on them, as they rabbayaani when I was young.” In other words, have mercy on them because they did tarbiyah for me when I was young. It doesn’t say “because they ‘allmaani”–because they taught me.

Long after facts have come and gone, what a child will remember are the memories she has cuddling on the couch, laughing at stories, and warmly basking in the glow of a parent’s attention and love. This relationship is what builds the person up, not the facts and pieces of knowledge imparted.

This does not mean we do not teach facts and knowledge! Those who follow my work know that I do indeed spend time on this ta’leem. You need to discern the difference between the two themes of ta’leem and tarbiyah though, so that you give adequate time to each.

Most importantly, you must understand that you, dear parents, are indispensable. You CANNOT outsource tarbiyah. You can send your child to classes and masjid programs for ta’leem but this can never replace tarbiyah. The cuddling on the couch, the lively discussions around the table, the one-on-one chats before bed….these are the things that only a parent can do. And these are the things that build the foundation of the Islamic akhlaq and adab (morals and manners).


Prayer Game with Musalas


I loved this game idea shared by Islam from the Start!

“We laid out the musalas (one for each child) around the room. Then we asked them to run around the room, this symbolised our daily life and how we are always rushing around from one activity to another. We then played the Adhan, which symbolised Allah’s call to us. We talked about how Allah calls us to good deeds like prayer, being kind to others, truthfulness etc. The children had to run to a musala as soon as they heard Allah’s call. After each round we removed one musala to find the winner! We then talked about how Allah is the fastest at responding to our prayer.”

Tips for getting your young child up for Fajr


Some good tips! When he started talking about how parents should get together and exchange ideas, i was so excited – because that’s what Buzz is all about! Parents sharing ideas about what works for them!

And check out this beautiful post from Facebook:

This morning at Fajr time, my eldest was super tired. His sleep schedule had been off all weekend so he really wanted to stay in and sleep.

When he got up out of bed he fell into my arms because he was so tired and cold. He then asked me if he could pray later (qada’a).

I held him tightly, warmed him up as best as I could, and then told him the prayer would be out by then and now that he was up, he should pray. But that he could go back to bed and catch up on his sleep when he was finished. He agreed, reluctantly, of course.

It was still dark so I walked him to the bathroom. For his comfort, I didn’t turn the bright bathroom light on but used the flashlight on my phone instead. I had just made wudu a few minutes earlier so I knew the warm water would come quickly and reassured him about that. He made wudu, and when he came out I had my big fluffy robe ready for him. He wrapped it tightly around himself. I grabbed a hat from the closet that my mother-in-law knitted for me and put it on his head. He was all cozy and warm, and suddenly very giggly; he hadn’t seen himself, but the thought of how he looked made him laugh. He said he was my twin and then decided he was going to go wake up his dad for prayer…as me! He changed his voice to sound like mine and woke him up. 🙂

When I told him to come and pray his sunnah alongside me, he said with a big smile on his face, “Mommy, I’m totally awake now and want to stay up!” 🙂

We prayed our sunnahs and then I led him in prayer. I read two surahs, Al-Ma’un and An-Naas, and when we finished the prayer I went over the meanings of both.

In the first surah I explained how Allah (swt) warns those who are heedless with their prayer, and in the second surah I explained how shaitan whispers in our hearts and how we have to seek refuge from his whisperings.

I then explained the concept of jihad an nafs and told him that his nafs was struggling when he asked about doing his prayer late, even though he was awake, and that shaitan is the one who likely put that thought in his mind. I also told him that I could have easily let my own heart as a mother get in the way and tell him he could go back to sleep, but that would have been irresponsible of me. It was my job to help him strengthen his nafs and help him when shaitan is trying to attack him, not give in and let him lose out and create bad habits where every time he gets those thoughts, his nafs and shaitan win.

Finally, I told him that alhamdulillah, even though he was at first reluctant to do it, he was able to push past his nafs and did it, and he should be proud of himself for that. And alhamdulillah, he ended up having a fun time, which was not planned at all, but a blessing from Allah nonetheless. 🙂

Parents, in the formative years of establishing good prayer habits, we have to be firm but also compassionate. We have to try to make the process easy for our children and be there with them during the difficult times, not just give them the command and expect them to fall in line.

If we’re able to turn around every negative association with prayer, every inconvenience, every moment of fatigue and difficulty, into a positive one, we will help them immensely in the long run.

So, if your children complain about ANY part of the prayer being too difficult, too uncomfortable, etc., don’t get mad at them and tell them to suck it up and be tough. Realize what is happening–they are under spiritual attack! Push back against shaitan, NOT them!

DESTROY shaitan’s every mode of attack! Be there for your children if you have to, pick them up, let them feel your presence, hear your reassurance, AND hear you champion them along with loving and kind words.

Make prayer a JOINT effort, pray with them and make it a beautiful and loving event they WANT to do, not just a “chore” they HAVE to do. And please, when they are between 7 and 10 and establishing their prayer, PLEASE don’t just leave them to fend for themselves.

Be there with them. In time they will become completely independent of you and you won’t need to handhold them, but until then, do it and enjoy it. Their love for you will increase, and more importantly, they will associate those beautiful feelings with prayer and with their Lord, God-willing.

May Allah ﷻ guide us and guide our children and protect us all from anything that comes between us and prayer. Amin.

The Power of the Quran, Dua, Salaah and Layl!


One after another, these two stories cropped up about the power of our prayers, in the different forms that Allah tells us to perform them – the recitation of the Quran, Salaat-ul-layl and Dua. Subhanallah!

“Assalamu alaikum everyone. I am an American Muslim convert and I wanted to share a personal story of never losing hope in God’s mercy. I had a very difficult pregnancy with my youngest daughter Laila, Alhumdulillah. I started showing signs of a miscarriage at 14 or 16 weeks after starting to recover from severe morning sickness in my first trimester. At 18 weeks my placenta ruptured and I almost lost my baby. Then at 24 weeks I went into pre-term labor. I was on bedrest for most of my pregnancy, I was in and out of the hospital a lot, I could barely walk during my second and third trimester, and I was frequently in a lot of pain. The doctors and nurses told me that I needed to prepare for the worst and that my baby most likely wouldn’t make it. However I refused to lose hope and lose my optimism. I told them that God can make the impossible possible. He says “be” and it is. I had my family and some of the best Muslims in the world praying for my baby and me Alhumduillah. No matter how much pain I was in or had been in, I would sit up every night and pray Qiam Al-Lail (the Night Prayer), and would ask God to save my baby girl and ask that she be born health and at full term. SubhanAllah she lasted 37 weeks of this difficult pregnancy and was born healthy via an emergency c-section. To this day I wake up every night, no matter how tired or sleep deprived I am, just to pray Qiam Al-Lail prayer. It’s almost like it has become a part of me, and I couldn’t imagine living a life without it. I named my daughter Laila. Her named is derived from the Arabic word Lail which means “Night.” And with the extra letter on the end, her name means “extreme happiness”.” – Erica

Teaching Children to Love Salah With One Trick


Another great article about helping our children love salaah – I love the idea about letting them lead. It really works!

“My husband would often feel disheartened when he had started talking back and telling us that he didn’t want to pray and of course I felt amused because we were talking about a six year old. My husband would often sit with our son and talk to him about the importance of prayer too. Prayer means obedience. If a child can pray, it means he will abide by his responsibilities. We talked to him but it didn’t work. We gave him stars… points… rewards but still it didn’t inspire him. Then one day….

I told him he was the Imam of our house. I told him that as soon as it was time for prayer, he should get up,  give the Iqamah (call for prayer signalling that prayer would start soon) and we would all gather behind him so that he could lead the prayer.”

Read the whole article here: http://wordsnneedles.com/WN/2015/06/teaching-children-to-love-salah-with-one-trick.html

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