Lots of research has gone into this well-written article!
Here’s a snippet:
“As per the title, the child is “The Master” for the first 7 years and this means that formal or strict standards should not be rigorously implemented, particularly in terms of Islamic rituals. How many of us have had the Quran Hifz inculcated into us from the age of 4/5 and onwards or fasting the long hours or knowing the 4 rakaat prayers by say, age 7? When in Surah Baqara (2:256) Almighty Allah Azawajal, tells us that “There is no compulsion in religion”, why do we compel our children to follow rituals so stringently? I am by no means saying that they should not learn the Quran, attempt fasting or know how to pray Salaat. However, it should be proportionate to their age and development. We should explain and inform children, that when they think of Allah – that Allah’s name becomes synonymous with LOVE and MERCY and not FEAR and SHAME. When I was growing up,I learnt a lot when I was young due to fear and peer pressure – not the best way to teach! It was drilled into me by well meaning parents and Islamic classes. Is it time to ease up a little?”
This 2-part series takes a deeper look at the oft-unspoken issue of infertility:
And this article is a comprehensive look at one woman’s story of miscarriages, packed with good advice: https://themuslimvibe.com/muslim-lifestyle-matters/the-beautiful-babies-no-one-talks-about
And this is some great research to back up Islam’s take on no-dating! Teens who don’t date may be more well-adjusted and less depressed, new study find: https://abcnews.go.com/Health/teens-dont-date-adjusted-depressed-study-finds/story?id=65486471
Some of the traditional methods of raising children in Tarim (Yemen). This is really beautiful.
Women expecting children would ensure every morsel going into their mouths was halal. Breastfeeding mothers would repeatedly recite Ayah al-Kursi, Surah al-Falaq, Surah al-Nas and du’as of protection over their babies.
When a child first began to speak it would be taught to say:
رَضِيتُ بِاللهِ رَبّاً، وبِالإِسْلامِ دِيناً، و بسيِّدِنَا مُحَمَّدٍ صلى الله عليه وسلم نَبِيَّاً ورَسُولاً
‘I am content with Allah as my Lord, with Islam as my religion, and with our Master Muhammad ﷺ as my Prophet and Messenger.’
Parents would teach their children the importance of making good intentions and what intentions to make just as they would teach them how to recite Surat al-Fatiha.
Parents would teach their children to call upon Allah in every situation. If a child asked for something, his parents would tell him to perform wudu, pray two rak’ats and then ask Allah to fulfil his need. After he had done this, they would give him what he wanted and tell him that Allah had answered his prayers.
Each child would be allocated a specific task. For example, one child would buy things from the shops, another would clean the house and another would serve guests.
Parents would wake up young children in the last part of the night to accustom them to being awake at that time. Fathers would take their young sons to the mosque at that time.
Parents would hold family gatherings in their houses on a daily or weekly basis. They would recite a portion of the Qur’an and read from the books of fiqh and hadith. They would conclude the gathering with du’as and salawat.
Parents would gather their children together before blessed days or months, such as Ramadan, and ask them what good deeds they planned to perform. For example, they would ask them how much of the Qur’an they would recite and how much charity they would give.
When one of their sons reached maturity, the father would hold a gathering to which he would invite the scholars and elders of the community. He would inform his son that he was now legally responsible and that he now had two angels who were recording his good and bad deeds.
Parents would give more attention to the education of girls than boys because girls would spend the greater part of their time in the domestic sphere. In reality, educating and nurturing a woman is educating and nurturing an entire nation.
Parents would marry their children as soon they were ready to ensure they did not commit any acts of disobedience. May Allah bless our children immensely and grant them every goodness in this world and the next.
Credit: KQZ Institute
Lots of nuggets in these clips:
In the next video, the first part is especially poignant for teens living in the West – I remember something similar from my own teenage years where I would listen to friends talking about how drunk they got at a party, threw up in plant pots and made a fool of themselves in general and how they regretted it the next day, etc. Was (and still am!) so grateful to have such an amazing religion that stops us from going down that destructive path.