Idea No 15: Switch off the Lights on Shame Ghariba
When we were young, we would not be allowed to switch on lights when coming home after mosque on Shame Ghariba, lighting a few candles here and there instead. This was to try and have our homes reflect the darkness that descended on the camp of Imam Husayn (as) after the day of Ashura.
This may even be exciting and different for the young ones (I remember it was for me), but at least it will sink in their minds that Shame Ghariba means no lights…and as they grow, so will their understanding.
With little ones, candles may not be the safest option – but perhaps turning on as few lights as possible? Or even allowing the use of torches? Anything to get the message across Inshallah…
*Marking Shame Ghariba in the girls classes with candles and reflections from the girls on their learning from the event of Kerbala has now become an annual tradition in our mosque. It’s always amazing to hear the range of learning that takes place and the practical ways they want to implement it in their lives.
Idea No 14: Remind Ourselves on How to Meet and Condole People on the Day of Ashura with a Label
I know I for one always have a hard time remembering the way to meet and condole people on the Day of Ashura, so how can I expect my children to? This year we are going to try and remind ourselves by writing it out on a sticky label and wearing it on our sleeves, Inshallah.
“May Allah bestow upon us and upon you great reward for grief of Imam Hussein (A), and make us and you amongst those who will assist Imam Mahdi (ATF) to avenge his killing.”
Or a simplified version for the young ones:
“May Allah give us and you lots of reward for being sad for Imam Hussein (A) and make us and you be the ones who will help Imam Mahdi (ATF) to seek revenge for his killing.”