The Baligha Club website shared in the last post was born as a result of exactly that – Baligha Clubs!
This started in Peterborough and is now slowly spreading through England – it basically calls girls from 7/8-10/11 years to spend a day together (usually a Sunday over the holidays)…in total they do about 5 days spread throughout the year.
The day’s format is usually like this:
Morning – a themed seminar with lots of group work and discussions. The themes vary from topics such as Islamic Identity to Role Models to New Year Resolutions.
This is followed by Lunch and Salaat.
Afternoon – this is usually a time for arts and crafts that fit in with the theme, e.g. around New Years Resolutions they made calendars. They also do some charity work too!
At the end, the older girls graduate and receive a certificate (although they are finding that the girls don’t want to leave!).
The focus of these days is different to the buloogh classes mentioned in an earlier post – that is more about the rules and responsiblities. To put it simple, that is about nourishing the brain, and this, as one of the organisers said, is all about nourishing the soul 🙂
One of the reasons that girls become baaligh at 9 is because they can start showing signs of puberty from that age onwards.
This is a great, down-to-earth and practical article to help mums talk about puberty with their children.
NOTE: Just FYI – the ahadith at the end are from Ahle-Sunnah sources
Check out this website, and then bookmark it for future reference!
It is still under construction but will hopefully have lots of resources when it’s ready – from icebreakers, modules, games and fun art activities to interesting articles, competitions and a charity page…
As it states…everything a baligha girl needs 🙂
With all the focus on parties and making it enjoyable, there is also the serious stuff that needs to be covered! Hijaab, Salaat, Fasting – these are just some of the responsibilities our girls will have when they turn 9 Islamically. Many children do learn these in Madressa, but it is always a good idea to have a refresher closer to the time.
Some mums organise a small course for their girls with a teacher well versed with the fiqh stuff – doing it together with other girls makes it fun and special, but they are also learning at the same time!
Just to clarify – this is not necessarily a time to TEACH everything (as it will be too overwhelming!), hopefully these topics will have been covered slowly over time leading up to the actual day. It is just meant to be a refresher and a chance to ask questions and fine tune 🙂
- Here is a resource that covers pretty much all the fiqh stuff that will be needed… Just a warning – it is hardcore, but it is also meant to be taught over two years and more!
It has a lot of examples and practical questions for the girls to practise with, having come from the S.I.Madressa manuals…
They are Inshallah going to work to make it a little more aesthetically appealing for children, and it will also be invaluable as a reference for the girls as they grow and have queries.
- And here is another resource – presented in a very child-friendly manner.
Ideas for PARTY FAVOURS in Buloogh Parties:
* The crafts they have made!
* Prayer bag (including prayer mat, mohr, tasbih, dua book, etc)
* A scarf/maqna
* Hijaab pins/bands
* Buloogh journal
Some mums also suggested: “Pop up cup for going to the washroom when out on trips or at school”, “Itar (perfume)” and ” Socks, small book of taaqeebate namaz”. Another suggestion that came in was personalised tasbeehs – they are beautiful, unique and practical. Check them out here: https://www.facebook.com/FowziasBeadifulThings
Check out what one mum did! Each of the items in the party bag meant something special to the girl’s becoming baligha 🙂
Another mum had a beauty theme to the party and so gave out the following:
The contents were:
Stick on earrings
Gold foil chocolate heart
She even gave the adults something too! A candle with the following message:
Also, how about Buzz Ideazz’s foldable hair brushes and mirrors with a dua on them? http://buzzideazz.com/shop/foldable-hairbrush-and-mirror-with-the-dua-for-looking-in-the-mirror/ . One birthday girl gave out Buzz Ideazz’ foldable hairbrush and mirrors with the dua for looking in the mirror to everyone in her mosque class for her when she became baaligha! An ideal going home gift, perfect for little girl’s purses or swim bags!
Any more ideas?
Ideas for ARTS and CRAFTS activities in Buloogh Parties:
* Mehndi applications and lesson
* Decorate your own hijaab with fabric pens/stone stickers
* Decorate your own long sleeved shirt with tie dye/fabric paint
* Make your own scarf pins with beads, etc
* Make and decorate a dua card
* Decorate plastic storage boxes which they can take home for their party favour, as a place to store their hijab pics/jewellery
Any more ideas?
One mom said: “We had these polystyrene hearts and attached sequins on there with small plastic pins… symbolises ….our hearts should be made up of lots of small goods sparkling deeds. So we have a beautiful heart/soul.”
Continuing on the theme of buloogh parties, and to capitalise on all the awesome ideas out there, I am going to share a few posts to get things rolling.
Please do add your own ideas in the comments section so that we can Inshallah have a huge bank to choose from!
Firstly: Ideas for what GAMES to play in Buloogh parties!
* The station ideas from Idea 5: http://www.buzzideazz.com/baligha-series-idea-5-baligha-parties/
* “Who’s your mahram” game – on small pieces of paper write down different family members names each friend take it in turn to pull one paper and read it to the buloogh girl…. “is your cousin Ali your Mahram or not?” This has also been done as a Knock Knock game where someone knocks the door and describes who they are.
* Have the girls design hijabi Western clothes/abayas.
*Give the girls a selection of Western clothes, shores, bags and scarves that they need to put together to make some trendy hijab styles – they may even do a fashion show at the end to present their creations!
* The girls can be put in pairs with each pair given a variety of hijabs and pins. Their task would be to come with new ideas and ways to wear hijabs. One partner would be the model and the best idea wins a prize! Alternatively, demonstrate a few hijab styles and then let them loose!
* How many hijabs can you wear in a minute? Winner is the one with the most!
* Split the girls into two groups, give them material, decoration, craft – even black bags! They have 5 minutes to drape a creative hijab outfit on one of the girls in the group.
* Your hair is showing! In this game, give each child a few strawberry laces each. Then exclaim “Oh no! Your hair is showing!” and invite them to eat it all up! The first person to gobble up the hair so it doesn’t show anymore, wins!
* Treasure hunt – Hide scarves or something small (we used badges which said ‘I love hijab’ and ‘A proud Muslimah’) around the house and send them off on a treasure hunt! The person with the most wins, but then they each get one to take home 😉
* Put the girls into two teams and see which team answers the most questions around buloogh – winner wins prizes!
* Truth or Dare: This idea was shared by a mum and can be accessed by the link below. Girls sit in a circle on the floor. There are two containers – one marked Truth and the other marked Dare. The first player then chooses a person in the circle and has them reach in the Truth container and pull out a truth question. The girl reads the question to herself and decides if she wants to answer it or not. If she wants to answer it then she reads the question aloud and then answers it. If she doesn’t really want to give an answer to the question she folds the truth question back up and puts it back in the Truth container. Then they have to choose a dare out of the dare container and do what it tells them to do no matter what. We’ve created a big list of (rated G) questions for truth or dare and some fun dares for girls to print and use at a birthday party!
* Pass the Parcel with questions on buloogh inside
* Baligha Ball: Buy a giant inflatable ball (beach ball( and write different questions or actions all over it in black permanent marker. All the girls stand in a big circle and the one who has the ball throws it across the circle to another girl. The girl who catches it has to answer the questions or perform the action that is under her thumb, and so on…
*The Peg Game: they played this game throughout. The girls each start with 6 pegs, and have a list of words that can’t say from start to finish. If anyone says a word for the list, the first person… to hear it and spot it takes their peg! the winner is the one with the most pegs at the end of the party 🙂
* Pin the pin on the Hijaabi! Cover their eyes, spin them round and then let them loose at trying to put the pin on the correct spot on the hijaabi poster (with their eyes covered still)! Another version is pin the scarf on an actual doll 🙂
*Someone has put together a Baaligha crossword puzzle as well as a quiz – available to download from the Dropbox link below. P.S. I hope it works – if it doesn’t, pls let me know!
Looking forward to more game ideas in the comments Inshallah!
Sooo many people have said that a buloogh party is an excellent way to make turning 9 a celebration and something to look forward to, as opposed to just being about all the new responsibilities and musts (which is how it used to be not so long ago)…
And you don’t have to limit the celebrations to other Muslim friends – a few mums have invited their daughter’s school friends also and it has been a great way to get them aware of buloogh and everything about it!
Check out this awesome example 🙂
There were stations around the room, each one with a different hadith and corresponding activity. So there was:
* A charity station – as you could see on the invite, they requested people to donate charity in lieu of presents. As the mum explained, it was a great opportunity to talk to her daughter about Sawaab-e-Jaariya and how this was her way of now collecting for the hereafter instead. What a great way to start your life after buloogh!
* A pampering station – here the girls got a chance to be pampered which becoming aware of the importance of cleanliness in Islam.
* A photo booth – a hadith on how even a smile can be a form of charity is a perfect accompaniment to taking a photo as a memento of the party!
* A mehndi station – a chance for the girls to put on mehndi and look pretty
* A talk was also given to the girls on buloogh and the importance of Akhlaaq and representing Islam as young hijaabis.
In another party, there was a beauty theme and there were mini pampering stations all around!
Turning 9 is going to have many implications in your daughter’s school life – and the school need to know! Not only that but her friends and classmates will probably be curious as to the changes, and so it is an ideal time to dispel any myths, provide information and generally increase awareness
Go in and speak to the head/teacher about the following:
– If she will be praying at school then she will need a space to pray, and somewhere to keep her musalla (a travel musalla with an attached part for the mohr is ideal)
– In Ramadhan that she will be fasting and may need to stay indoors during hot summer days – one school even allowed a friend to stay in with their daughter so she doesn’t get bored/lonely)
– That she will be wearing a head scarf
– If swimming, that she will be wearing a burkini, which has been accepted world wide as appropriate swim wear
Some awesome mums even went in to talk to their daughter’s class about it all! A PPT was used and has been shared with you here (PPTS have been shared here through dropbox links) in case you would like to do the same Info can be added/changed as you see fit!
Here is another PPT given by another mum, who extended it to add more information on the other aspects of turning baaligh;
The amazing thing was the knock-on effect it had…in one school, because of one girl starting to wear the hijaab at school, another did too – and so this mum was asked to come in and give her presentation to another class also!
Others asked speakers to come instead, and it was held as a Key Stage 2 Assembly – this was very effective also.
Also super effective was having the girls who are wearing hijaab give their own talk, thus giving them ownership of explaining what is happening to their lives. Here is a sample talk which may be useful: https://www.dropbox.com/s/mbkme36y3ohb29t/Hijaabtalk.docx?dl=0
Don’t wait too late to start talking to them about growing up and their responsibilities, but also to start implementing them…
Here is what one mum said:
“Honestly the best advice I can give is start early. Make things a habit before girls reach 9 because you can’t just wake up one day and have a life style change. In that interim period then if they miss a Salaat or decide it’s just too hot to put their hijab on one day, I don’t have to freak out. By 9, it’s all grown to be part of daily life and the transition is a lot easier.”