And to finally wrap up the buloogh series (she says!), how about these Buzz cards?
They each have a poem inside 🙂
Here is an example:
“Now that you are finally nine,
Life’s going to get even more divine!
Ready for the journey ahead, shiny and bright?
Responsibilities await but opportunities too…
Fasten your seat belt and hold on tight,
God’s gifts and blessings are waiting for you!”
Just a last thought on Buloogh before I wrap up the topic and we go on to something else…
One interesting thing a mum said was that one thing she didn’t expect was the panic she felt abut a month before her daughter turned 9 Islamically. And she said she now knows that a lot of other mums faced it too…
Inshallah it is our hope and prayer that through the ideas, resources and thoughts shared in this series, an element of that panic will be decreased! And of course, knowing that it is normal to feel that way helps too 🙂
May our daughters embrace turning 9 and this new phase of their lives Inshallah! And may Allah give us the tawfeeq to be able to guide them throught it 🙂
The last idea for the series is the most sentimental 🙂
Make it a special transition by doing something different, just the two of you – going away for the weekend, going for a walk by the beach (on a full moon!), going for a spa day, going for a hike…anything that is out of the norm and that will also allow you the space to talk and share thoughts 🙂
Make the buloogh birthday extra special by adding meaningful gifts!
One family gifted their daughter 9 gifts, one for each year. She started opening one a day each day, leading up to her actual birthday – this made the excitement truly stretch out!
The gifts given from each member of the family, as well as general gifts around buloogh:
- A father-daughter necklace/keychain from the dad
- A mother-daughter journal from the mum
- A personalised cushion from the brother
- A shela hanger
- A pin cushion
- A QFatima Buloogh journal
- A prayer pack, with a musalla, dua book, mohr/tasbih, perfume, prayer book (to write down kazas, etc), travel toilet bottle and a travel musalla
- Her buloogh party counted as one gift 😉
- Her birthday ‘card’ counted as a gift as it was a book of meaningful messages by her family and friends 🙂 (http://www.buzzideazz.com/baligha-series-idea-11-gather-messages-from-loved-ones/)
And here’s another idea, following on from the last blog post: http://www.buzzideazz.com/baligha-series-idea-12-wisdom-necklace/:
The women that were invited to mark this special moment in the girl’s life were encouraged to give a special sort of gift – something of theirs that was meaningful and significant to them that they were passing on to her, such as a piece of jewellery from when they were younger, a poem that touched them, a book that they loved, a journal to write her thoughts in, a special photograph, etc.
Now that’s what I call a thoughtful gift 🙂
I loved, loved, loved this idea!
So with buloogh parties, the girls celebrated with friends, but what about marking the moment with the loving women in our child’s life?
A friend was telling me how they marked a girl’s ‘coming of age’ by gathering all the important women in the girl’s life, such as the grandmothers, aunts and other close women. Prior to this, the girl was asked to think of questions she would like to ask (could be on anything she wanted to know), and she thought of a number of questions, and who she would like to answer what question.
On the day, each lady went into a room with the young girl and answered the question she had been given. At the end of each question, the girl got a bead to put together as a necklace of beads (or ‘pearls of wisdom’ :)), and the lady too got a bead as a reminder of this day and moment.
Needless to say, the beads are a treasured reminder of all the advice given to the young girl, both for her and the ladies involved!
Following on from the idea of having a one-day Buloogh Club, how about a weekend camp idea?
COEJ (Council of European Jamaats) organise such a thing and here is what one girl said after just recently coming back from one!:
“I was looking forward to the camp so much I was counting the days. Even though it was my first time away from home I wasn’t nervous.
The camp was in Milton Keynes. My mum dropped me to Milton Keynes in the car. I bought a very big suitcase with me which had lots of clothes and other things that were on the list.
We got into groups and did fun ice-breaker activities to get to know each other. There were 36 girls altogether. We played lots of games and made loom bracelets.
We slept in our sleeping bags on the floor of the mosque. It was quite comfortable. We talked for a long time after the lights went out. In the middle of the night we got up for fajr.
The next day we went to activity centre. We did rock climbing, sledging, ice sliding, bowling and shopping all in one day. When we got back we did more activities like decorating cupcakes. Then we got dressed up because it was Mehraj night.
The next day in the morning we had a buloogh workshop and we talked about dressing properly when we become baligh and what kind of clothes we should wear. We did a fashion show.
In the afternoon we went to the food bank and we helped sort out food parcels for people who don’t have enough food to eat.
On our last night we had a lovely midnight feast with lots of doughnuts and chocolate and sweets and crisps. It was amazing.
If I can I will go again next year inshallah.”
P.S. If you live places where these sorts of Buloogh Clubs/Camps don’t exist, I hope this provides the incentive to organise such a thing! I am sure the current organisers would be more than willing to share content, tips, ideas, etc if you get in touch with them 🙂
The Baligha Club website shared in the last post was born as a result of exactly that – Baligha Clubs!
This started in Peterborough and is now slowly spreading through England – it basically calls girls from 7/8-10/11 years to spend a day together (usually a Sunday over the holidays)…in total they do about 5 days spread throughout the year.
The day’s format is usually like this:
Morning – a themed seminar with lots of group work and discussions. The themes vary from topics such as Islamic Identity to Role Models to New Year Resolutions.
This is followed by Lunch and Salaat.
Afternoon – this is usually a time for arts and crafts that fit in with the theme, e.g. around New Years Resolutions they made calendars. They also do some charity work too!
At the end, the older girls graduate and receive a certificate (although they are finding that the girls don’t want to leave!).
The focus of these days is different to the buloogh classes mentioned in an earlier post – that is more about the rules and responsiblities. To put it simple, that is about nourishing the brain, and this, as one of the organisers said, is all about nourishing the soul 🙂
One of the reasons that girls become baaligh at 9 is because they can start showing signs of puberty from that age onwards.
This is a great, down-to-earth and practical article to help mums talk about puberty with their children.
NOTE: Just FYI – the ahadith at the end are from Ahle-Sunnah sources