Bedtime Series - Idea 6: Use that time to remember the family of the Prophet (saw)

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Bedtime can be a great time to help children remember the names of the Ahlul Bayt. If done informally, it will Inshallah not be so stressful on the child to try and memorise them and can be learnt in fun ways!

I just tell my daughter that it’s time to go to Ziyarat, and we can do all 14 ziyarats by simply saying Salaam to each one. Sometimes, we hush and try and listen out for their ‘Alaikum Salaams’.
Another thing we did was write out the names on small pieces of card and stick them all with blue tack on one of the slates of the bunk bed on top of her. This way when we said Salaam, she also had the visual cue in front of her. Sometimes we would mix them up and she would then put them back in order!

Rhymes are also great. There is one in Gujrati (pratham ali bija Hassan…) as recommended by a mum, but here is a link to an English one! It’s the second rhyme – do also check out the others!

http://www.qfatima.com/index.php/q-kids-audio?view=playlist&id=210

Idea 15: Make a 'gift' pack from ziyarat together

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Idea 15: Make a ‘gift’ pack from Ziyarat together

Last but not least, one of the customs for zawwaar is to buy things from this holy trip for family and friends back home who were not lucky enough to be there!

Why not include your children in this process of choosing the right things for the right person, including their friends. Then once home, make it extra-special by encouraging/helping them to write a little note to go with it, explaining why they are giving those things and the significance behind the items.

Inshallah, it will give it that personal touch, as well as making it very meaningful for both, giver and recipient.

It may also reinforce the importance of giving gifts in Islam, for the Prophet (saw) has said: “A gift brings about affection, reinforces brotherhood, and removes grudges. Give gifts to each other and you will love each other.” (Bihar al-Anwar, v. 77, p. 166, no. 2)

* That concludes this series for now! Would love to know of any other ideas that anyone going to ziyarat this year had, once you get back Inshallah…

* And on the off-chance that anyone is reading this while there, Iltemase Dua!

Idea 13: Equip them with child-friendly dua cards

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Idea 13: Equip Them with Child-Friendly Dua Cards!

The duas and ziyarats etc that one recites on this amazing trip are an essential part. Dua Cards especially altered to be accessible for children are made by:https://www.facebook.com/pages/Dua-Cards/188622421152012

She’s headed off for ziyarat herself, but save this one for the future Inshallah!

E-mail: sales@duacards.com

Idea 14: Make a dua list

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Idea 14: Make a Dua List

One thing that EVERYONE asks a zawwaar is to pray for them, and often many zawwaar make a list of people they want to pray for, or people that have asked them to pray for them, etc.

Why not have your child make their own list? They might surprise you with who they put down! It could be part of their diary/journal, or a separate thing altogether…

Idea 12: Make a will with them

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Idea 12: Make a will with them

Making a will is also something adults do before they go, in case anything happens during the trip. This is something that is highly encouraged in Islam at all times anyway, as death can befall us at any time and any age – something which the recent tragic events in Dar-es-Salaam have reminded us of again starkly 🙁

Perhaps the trip to ziyarat is a good time to introduce the concept of preparing for our inevitable end…

Maybe sit down with the children and make a will with them; again adjust according to their capabilities, from deciding who gets their toys and clothes, to any prayers/fasts that may be pending.

For younger children, maybe make it a fun activity, with the whole rolling up of the will, tying with a ribbon, sealing with candle and all that…as long as the concept of preparation is introduced, it doesn’t need to be morbid!

It may bring on a serious discussion on death however, which is a whole other series in itself i think. Would love to hear from parents who have approached the issue with their children and any tips on how to do this?

 

Idea 11: Encourage them to make amends

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Idea 11: Encourage them to make amends

Tying up loose ends, paying any debts, asking for forgiveness and basically trying to clean the slate are things all zawwaar do before they embark on this trip, to try and make the trip as spirituallybeneficial as possible…

What if we encouraged our children to do the same, according to their capabilities? They can say sorry for anything they may have done to their siblings, cousins, friends, etc (perhaps after sitting and reflecting and making a list), return any books or toys or money they may have borrowed, and ensure that any pending things they need to do are completed!

As they grow older, the understanding and level at which they do this will change, but inshallah even at a young age, they can have an awareness of these concepts among others…

– accountability for their actions
– the importance of making amends
– how actions affect how close they can get to Allah
– the importance of returning amanat
– the importance of fulfilling any tasks they have

And finally, it may even hopefully make saying sorry in general that wee bit easier!

Idea 10: Take the Lyrics for their Favourite Marthiyas and Nawhas

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Idea 10: Take the Lyrics for their Favourite Marthiyas and Nawhas

As one mum said, she makes sure she packs these in for her children to express themselves in the harams of these Noble Personalities.

Check out http://www.qfatima.com/docs/YaHusayn_Marthiyas.pdffor a whole range. Audio: http://www.qfatima.com/index.cfm?Content=527 –

Voice of Passion have also been very inspirational for the slightly older generation – check their Marthiyas and Nawhas out athttp://englishnawha.com/

Idea 9: Encourage them to eat less meat beforehand and/or fast

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Idea 9: Encourage them to eat less meat beforehand and/or fast

Cutting down on meat and fasting for the last 3 days (http://www.myziyarat.ca/Books/ZIYARAT-IRAQ.pdf (page 7)) before the trip is also highly recommended.

If your children are too young, encouraging them to eat less, and perhaps less of the junky food, may be a good way to emphaises this aspect. It will also stress the importance of how what we eat affects our spiritual state – a good reminder for us parents as well!

Idea 8: The Bag of Sweets

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Idea 8: The Bag of Sweets!

Don’t lose hope with the bag of sweets though! I’m sure many people in the group you’re travelling with will love a pick-me-up 🙂

Also, if your intention is to give it out as Fateha…it’s a great opportunity to explain/reinforce the concept of Fateha being a gift to the Marhumeen with your children!

Idea 7: Good Ol' Socks

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Idea 7: Good ol’ Socks

So I’ve heard the idea “take some sweets to hand out to the children on the street” several times, and have also seen it in a book or two. But I think times are changing as when I spoke to someone who is inshallah headed there soon, she mentioned that a recent zawaar said that when they tried to do this, the children actually refused the sweet stuff, and asked just for cash!!

However, groups are advised NOT to give out cash on the street, but to donate it to established projects, such as the orphanage, etc. It got me thinking though, as to how bad we feel when we pass beggars but don’t give them anything, usually ducking our heads and walking quickly by, feeling guilty all the way.

Have you ever seen those vendors on the streets though? The ones that sell small things that we usually don’t need? Socks, pens and that sort of thing? I know I normally pass them without a second thought, except perhaps a quick dismissal thinking along the lines of ‘those socks will only last a day!’

And yet they are out there, trying to earn a living through whatever means they can, and choosing this struggle over the humiliation of begging, which is also frowned upon and highly discouraged in Islam.

So here’s a thought…next time we pass such a vendor on the street, perhaps we can buy that pair of socks? Perhaps Allah wants to give him halal rizq through us that day? And hey, maybe those socks will last us a lifetime 😉

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