From Ruqaya’s Bookshelf on FB:
A few weeks ago, I did a live with @hafsacreates about how to create “Muslim culture” in your home. We discussed some lovely ideas, and here’s another one!
I attended a “salah-bration” party at a friend’s house after her daughter turned 7 (7 is the age that children begin to pray their 5 daily prayers). At the party, there was an amazing salah quiz, the kids prayed together, and every child received a parting gift of the 30th juz’ and a lovely hijab.
In lieu of gifts, all the guests were asked to write a letter to the little girl letting her know why salah was special to them.
What a beautiful way to celebrate the beginning of a lifetime of turning to Allah (swt).
I love this idea because it’s a way to highlight the kinds of things we want our kids to value.
May Allah swt guide all of us to continually turn to Him ❤️
Alhamd there is so much out there now for our children to help them benefit from the month. Here is a round up – including both those for purchase, and those available as a free download:
- My Ramadan Diary by Seek Perfection (Children aged 4 to 6)
- Ramadan Diary by Seek Perfection (Children aged 7 to 10)
- My Ramadhan Diary – With Duas by Umm Ally
- My Laylatul Qadr Journal by Buzz Ideazz (Children aged 7 to 15)
- Ramadhan Journal by Sh. Azhar Nasser (10 and older)
- Ramadhan Diary by The Qur’an Project (Children ages 14 and older)
- Ramadan Jewels – An interactive Dua and A’maal Companion (based on teachings of Ahlul Bayt)
- Ramadan Activity Book by QFatima
- Salamoji Ramadhan Workbook by Zahra Trust
- Ramadhan Activity Pack by Smart Ark
- Ramadhan Activity Pack 2 by Smart Ark
- Ramadan Activity Book by CraftZilla Oman
- Ramadan Activity Pack (For children under 7) by Homely Hammock
- Learning Roots Ramadan Activity Book
- Kisa Kids have several amazing resources for teaching lessons every Ramadhan. They also have a really nice journal for those fasting for the first time since becoming baaligh. Check them all out here.
- Colouring pages to occupy the little ones by Allah to Z
- A Quran based 30 Day Colouring Book by Darul Arqam
- Ramadan Journal for Kids by A Muslim Homeschool
- 30 Day Shukr Journal by Fatema Meghjee
- Ramadan and Fasting Activity Book by Discover Islam Sticker Activity Book
If you know of anymore, send them to me and will add them on inshallah 🙂
And to finally wrap up the buloogh series (she says!), how about these Buzz cards?
They each have a poem inside 🙂
Here is an example:
“Now that you are finally nine,
Life’s going to get even more divine!
Ready for the journey ahead, shiny and bright?
Responsibilities await but opportunities too…
Fasten your seat belt and hold on tight,
God’s gifts and blessings are waiting for you!”
Just a last thought on Buloogh before I wrap up the topic and we go on to something else…
One interesting thing a mum said was that one thing she didn’t expect was the panic she felt abut a month before her daughter turned 9 Islamically. And she said she now knows that a lot of other mums faced it too…
Inshallah it is our hope and prayer that through the ideas, resources and thoughts shared in this series, an element of that panic will be decreased! And of course, knowing that it is normal to feel that way helps too 🙂
May our daughters embrace turning 9 and this new phase of their lives Inshallah! And may Allah give us the tawfeeq to be able to guide them throught it 🙂
The last idea for the series is the most sentimental 🙂
Make it a special transition by doing something different, just the two of you – going away for the weekend, going for a walk by the beach (on a full moon!), going for a spa day, going for a hike…anything that is out of the norm and that will also allow you the space to talk and share thoughts 🙂
Make the buloogh birthday extra special by adding meaningful gifts!
One family gifted their daughter 9 gifts, one for each year. She started opening one a day each day, leading up to her actual birthday – this made the excitement truly stretch out!
The gifts given from each member of the family, as well as general gifts around buloogh:
- A father-daughter necklace/keychain from the dad
- A mother-daughter journal from the mum
- A personalised cushion from the brother
- A shela hanger
- A pin cushion
- A QFatima Buloogh journal
- A prayer pack, with a musalla, dua book, mohr/tasbih, perfume, prayer book (to write down kazas, etc), travel toilet bottle and a travel musalla (Another idea here is to gift them a Risalah of their Mujtahid!)
- Her buloogh party counted as one gift 😉
- Her birthday ‘card’ counted as a gift as it was a book of meaningful messages by her family and friends 🙂 (http://www.buzzideazz.com/baligha-series-idea-11-gather-messages-from-loved-ones/)
Other ideas include:
- One mum wrote this letter to her daughter: https://www.dropbox.com/s/hi5t8pyspaerljl/lettertomydaughterbaligha.docx?dl=0
- This salaah tracker journal: http://www.buzzideazz.com/shop/journey-to-jannah-my-daily-salaah-record-book/
- An alarm clock!
- A Quran of her own
- A burkini
- An abaya
- And here’s another idea, following on from the last blog post: http://www.buzzideazz.com/baligha-series-idea-12-wisdom-necklace/:
The women that were invited to mark this special moment in the girl’s life were encouraged to give a special sort of gift – something of theirs that was meaningful and significant to them that they were passing on to her, such as a piece of jewellery from when they were younger, a poem that touched them, a book that they loved, a journal to write her thoughts in, a special photograph, etc.
Now that’s what I call a thoughtful gift 🙂
I loved, loved, loved this idea!
So with buloogh parties, the girls celebrated with friends, but what about marking the moment with the loving women in our child’s life?
A friend was telling me how they marked a girl’s ‘coming of age’ by gathering all the important women in the girl’s life, such as the grandmothers, aunts and other close women. Prior to this, the girl was asked to think of questions she would like to ask (could be on anything she wanted to know), and she thought of a number of questions, and who she would like to answer what question.
On the day, each lady went into a room with the young girl and answered the question she had been given. At the end of each question, the girl got a bead to put together as a necklace of beads (or ‘pearls of wisdom’ :)), and the lady too got a bead as a reminder of this day and moment.
Needless to say, the beads are a treasured reminder of all the advice given to the young girl, both for her and the ladies involved!
he next batch of Buloogh Ideas is all about acknowledging that your daughter is now entering a new phase of life…
One mum had a lovely idea of collecting messages for her daughter from all the people who knew her – family, friends – school and otherwise, teachers, etc.
The result was one lovely journal full of memories and advice for the years ahead, which I’m sure she will cherish forever!