It’s the birthday of the Lady of Light! I thought I would share what somebody did this last weekend to mark the birthday of Bibi Fatima (pbuh) with her daughter in a beautiful way…
“In anticipation of my little girl growing into a young lady quicker than I can keep up with (!), I decided to start a yearly ritual at the time of the wiladat of Sayyada Fatema Zahra (sa) in the hope that she and her friends can begin cultivating a love for the lady who will be their guide and role model through life. We kept it small this year as it was our first one. We started with a story about a Princess who makes a sacrifice to help her mother get over an illness, out of love for her. We then talked about parents, how much we love and respect them and the things we can do to show them this. We talked about how special our mothers are in particular and how the most amazing mother was Sayyada Fatema Zahra (sa) and some of her amazing qualities that we all aspire to have. We ended with learning the du’a for parents “rabbir ham huma kama rabba yaanee sagheera.”
We all then got stuck into three fun activities! Decorating cupcakes and making paper tissue flowers as special treats for the mummies and also making a du’a card to display at home reminding the girls to recite the du’a that they had learned.
The girls then chatted and enjoyed some snacks before going home with their girly pink bags filled with tabarruk and their activities, to present to their mummies :)”
It’s FRIDAY! Jummah Mubarak all!
As well as cutting nails, applying perfume and all the rest of it, why not buy your child a small present today? Nothing big (am talking Poundland style!) – but just something to help them mark the day of Jummah Eid with a smile 🙂
Or if you have some unopened birthday/Eid gifts in the cupboard (I don’t let them have them all in one go), maybe today’s the day you can let them choose one to open and play with!
If your cupboards and bare and a trip to the shops is not possible, chocs and sweets work a treat – make sure you tell them you’re giving it to them for Jummah!
Have an awesome day, Inshallah 🙂
Sil-e-Rahm is a key part of Islam, as maintaining relationships with family is essential to unity. However, with our busy lifestyles, it may not be so easy to keep in touch with our extended families, aunts and uncles, etc. One good way is to keep a note of important birthdays, and at least make the effort to call them on that day.
Another idea, which is especially useful to teach the importance of this concept to children, is a Sil-e-Rahm Jar. Cut out strips of paper and write the names of people your children want to/should keep in touch with – cousins, friends, etc. Then choose a day, a day that you know you will have some time to make calls and that time-difference won’t be an issue, and on that day every week, pick a name out of the jar and skype/facetime/call away!
Alhamdulillah, my kids loved the concept so much they didn’t want to wait a week and decided to pick several names out of the jar at once, and for several days thereafter! I’m actually thinking of making my own personal jar to help me stay on top of my own personal responsibilities of Sil-e-Rahm 🙂
This Sil-e-Rahm jar may be ideal for those returning from ziyarats as well. One of the beautiful aspects of ziyarat is getting to know and forming ties with the people in the group, as well as coming across long-lost friends and acquaintances of other groups. Although initially upon return, efforts are made to keep in touch regularly, unfortunately this inevitably dwindles… Why not make your own Sil-e-Rahm jars and see how that works?
On a final note, just wanted to share the importance of Sil-e-Rahm: Prophet Mohammad (pbuh) says, regarding the rewards for Sil-e-Rahm – “The reward for Sadaqah in the way of Allah (SWT) is ten times, whereas the reward for giving a loan is twelve times (because in giving a loan the dignity of the loaned is maintained). The reward for the good behavior to the believing brothers is twelve times and the reward for Sil-e-Rahm is twenty four times.”
Idea 15: Make a ‘gift’ pack from Ziyarat together
Last but not least, one of the customs for zawwaar is to buy things from this holy trip for family and friends back home who were not lucky enough to be there!
Why not include your children in this process of choosing the right things for the right person, including their friends. Then once home, make it extra-special by encouraging/helping them to write a little note to go with it, explaining why they are giving those things and the significance behind the items.
Inshallah, it will give it that personal touch, as well as making it very meaningful for both, giver and recipient.
It may also reinforce the importance of giving gifts in Islam, for the Prophet (saw) has said: “A gift brings about affection, reinforces brotherhood, and removes grudges. Give gifts to each other and you will love each other.” (Bihar al-Anwar, v. 77, p. 166, no. 2)
* That concludes this series for now! Would love to know of any other ideas that anyone going to ziyarat this year had, once you get back Inshallah…
* And on the off-chance that anyone is reading this while there, Iltemase Dua!
Idea 13: Equip Them with Child-Friendly Dua Cards!
The duas and ziyarats etc that one recites on this amazing trip are an essential part. Dua Cards especially altered to be accessible for children are made by:https://www.facebook.com/pages/Dua-Cards/188622421152012
She’s headed off for ziyarat herself, but save this one for the future Inshallah!
Idea 14: Make a Dua List
One thing that EVERYONE asks a zawwaar is to pray for them, and often many zawwaar make a list of people they want to pray for, or people that have asked them to pray for them, etc.
Why not have your child make their own list? They might surprise you with who they put down! It could be part of their diary/journal, or a separate thing altogether…